Jane. You are a wonder and a great gift. I am so grateful for your words, your wisdom, your generosity, and your love. Thank you for talking about hate. I was never challenged in my life to feel hate until Donald Trump was thrust upon our country. I have tried to not feel that towards him, and I have failed. But i know that hate within me is mostly an illness that attacks ME, not anyone else. And I am so grateful for your counsel to release hate and to recognize that people who can behave in hateful ways, are victims, too. It is so unfortunate when those people are given so much power and, thus, the ability to destroy things we so value, but I truly can conjure compassion for those who have been traumatized. So many of us have been, how can I not understand?
Bless you, most beautiful lady who fills my heart with gratitude and love. Bless you for spreading your good and for standing up tall to enable all of us to do our own good, too.
Yesss one of the most important choices I have ever made has been to choose kindness and empathy even when I’m upset or angry. It truly does help me feel light when there is so much weighing us all down. You’ve helped me dig into this even deeper and when I’ve faltered, remembering what you’ve told me and now all of us has helped me hold strong to choosing love. I love soaking up your wisdom, lessons, and stories. We can all learn so much by listening closely with open hearts. I’m so grateful.
I work for a very small non-profit eco tour cruise company (20-24 ppl max) focusing on protecting the Tongass National rain forest in SE Alaska. We’re now back to fighting to keep the Roadless Rule intact to protect the largest rain forest in America from roads and logging. We’ve been doing this for 45 years and the Republican admins always want to open this pristine area to their cronies. I’d love for you and your grandkids to come on one of fabulous adventures! Email me at donna@theboatcompany.org and I’ll send you more details. ❤️
Good morning, Jane. Thank you for sharing such a range of profound insights and stories, from readers and from your own life. I agree that anger can be harnessed into action for positive change. Of course the concern, as you said, is when anger devolves into hate. On that note: a couple of weeks ago, I attended "The People's Filibuster" at The Public Theater in NYC, which was described as a "Protest for Humanity." For more than seven hours, politicians, activists, journalists, actors, and performers from New York's theater community braved the cold, singing songs, reading poems and speeches, sharing eyewitness accounts from Minneapolis, and even revisiting excerpts from the Declaration of Independence outside the theater. I stood there for about three hours and, during that time, two speakers, at two different points, both read Fred Rogers' “What do you do with the Mad that you Feel." I'll share his words here since Mister Rogers' wisdom is always welcomed:
I love Father Greg! Thank you so much for mentioning Homeboy Industries! Father Greg has so many videos on YouTube and every one of them is a joy to listen to and puts us on the right path, the path towards love! Thank you so much Jane for bringing him up. I love you so much! 💗
Thank yo so much for your message Jane. i have 3 daughters, one who live in Santa Monica. Her heart is full and she is out there on the peaceful protest lines, witnessing the wrongs. My parents, quite the opposite,swallowing the red pill to the deepest Trumpian consperacies.
i love them both but cant seem to save my mom, who is 97. My wife and I love your body of work and passion, dating back to your stance on Vietnam. You are a hero, as was your Dad and brother, Peter. Like you, at age 69, appreciate every day to pay it forward, as you do so well. Appreciate you Jane.
I am so excited you are serving on the board of Home Boy Industries. I have been studying Richard Rohr and through him found Boyles book. Boyle was at a conference in Albuquerque that i attended. such a wonderful human! and so are you. ty Jane
Such a great post. The message at the end about disliking behaviour but not the individual is so important, very difficult, but very important. And behaviour is also what tells you who someone is...not so much words. And agreed, the traumatized are not well individuals living terrible lives of cognitive dissonance and psychic pain. I appreciate Jane that you shared this but also that you practice this, you do have an amazing sense of calm about you. Thank you.
Jane you are absolutely phenomenal .. I don’t need to say this because everyone knows it… but I’m in my mid 70’s and so appreciate you taking the time and energy to guide all of us! You’re obviously more privileged than most of us, but you are kind, and down to earth, and you are wise1 THANK YOU for taking time and energy to share !
Hi Jane. I love the video today. All of those letters were so lovely. I just wrote on my Substack and posted on Facebook an article about empathy. When you talk about traumatized people and not hating them it really resonated with me, and was basically on par with the article I wrote. I’ve been trying to educate myself on a typical maga follower. I’m a residential interior designer based in Beverly Hills and New York, but I started writing about a year ago and have tapped into a new creative outlet I didn’t know I had inside of me. I’m trying to use it for good. I just started on Substack. I’m not doing any of those things one does to garner followers. The process of writing is so cathartic and better than therapy for me. Showing empathy to traumatize people who behave with hatred is something Democratic leadership needs to tap into. Trump had used it as all con men do to demonize ‘the other’ and tap in into the grievances of so many people suffering in the richest country in the world. Neither party has offered them answers and solutions. I don’t think it’s hyperbolic anymore to make comparisons to Germany in the early 1930s. People are angry because their lives have not turned out the way they hoped things would go, and I truly understand that. They were looking for their Messiah. In many of these small towns, Bible Belt cities, and rural areas across the country the evangelical church is the only community people have. There is no culture. They see in Trump what they see so often in these architectural monstrosities called churches with Venmo machines. So often the minister has been caught with his hand in the cookie jar or in inappropriate relationships with other members of the congregation and even children sadly. It’s a culture of forgiveness or rather overlooking the uncomfortable because he’s tapped into their grievances culturally and politically so profoundly and then it’s bolstered and sanitized on Fox News every night or Newsmax or any of the right wing podcasts. As privileged white people who support the marginalized, it’s important that we recognize them as well. Trump just held a mirror up in 2015 do a very significant group of people that have been left behind by both parties.
Thank you for all the great work you do on climate and democracy. I loved your documentary. I think we’re neighbors in BH?
I just subscribed to your channel. Your video made me cry. Hatred is the language of the traumatized – – that reached all the way to my core. Normally it takes music to do that.
Growing up Gay in the south in the 80s, I experienced a lot of what you describe with respect to trauma and hatred. Bullies were bullied and that’s what makes them what they are.
I grew up watching 9 to 5, and I thought you and Lily and Dolly were just fabulous. Dabney was awesome too.
I absolutely adore your father – – 12 angry men remains in my top perhaps four or five favorite movies. On golden pond was lovely and a wonderful taming of you and your pop.
Since 2017, I’ve had to think quite differently about my life because of a health crisis that continues to slow me down. I worked in high-tech – – Microsoft, Amazon, Uber. Grace and Frankie brought me a lot of joy during those dark days.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I would like to send you a book – – if you use Kindle, I’d like to buy you a copy.
Jane. You are a wonder and a great gift. I am so grateful for your words, your wisdom, your generosity, and your love. Thank you for talking about hate. I was never challenged in my life to feel hate until Donald Trump was thrust upon our country. I have tried to not feel that towards him, and I have failed. But i know that hate within me is mostly an illness that attacks ME, not anyone else. And I am so grateful for your counsel to release hate and to recognize that people who can behave in hateful ways, are victims, too. It is so unfortunate when those people are given so much power and, thus, the ability to destroy things we so value, but I truly can conjure compassion for those who have been traumatized. So many of us have been, how can I not understand?
Bless you, most beautiful lady who fills my heart with gratitude and love. Bless you for spreading your good and for standing up tall to enable all of us to do our own good, too.
With deeply love and gratitude,
Kirstin C
Yesss one of the most important choices I have ever made has been to choose kindness and empathy even when I’m upset or angry. It truly does help me feel light when there is so much weighing us all down. You’ve helped me dig into this even deeper and when I’ve faltered, remembering what you’ve told me and now all of us has helped me hold strong to choosing love. I love soaking up your wisdom, lessons, and stories. We can all learn so much by listening closely with open hearts. I’m so grateful.
I work for a very small non-profit eco tour cruise company (20-24 ppl max) focusing on protecting the Tongass National rain forest in SE Alaska. We’re now back to fighting to keep the Roadless Rule intact to protect the largest rain forest in America from roads and logging. We’ve been doing this for 45 years and the Republican admins always want to open this pristine area to their cronies. I’d love for you and your grandkids to come on one of fabulous adventures! Email me at donna@theboatcompany.org and I’ll send you more details. ❤️
Thank you SisuAD for your contribution to address the serious environmental situations. Groups working together CAN and HAVE changedd the future
Oh how I needed this today! Love you Jane❤️
Lovely video! Thank you Jane. ❤️
Good morning, Jane. Thank you for sharing such a range of profound insights and stories, from readers and from your own life. I agree that anger can be harnessed into action for positive change. Of course the concern, as you said, is when anger devolves into hate. On that note: a couple of weeks ago, I attended "The People's Filibuster" at The Public Theater in NYC, which was described as a "Protest for Humanity." For more than seven hours, politicians, activists, journalists, actors, and performers from New York's theater community braved the cold, singing songs, reading poems and speeches, sharing eyewitness accounts from Minneapolis, and even revisiting excerpts from the Declaration of Independence outside the theater. I stood there for about three hours and, during that time, two speakers, at two different points, both read Fred Rogers' “What do you do with the Mad that you Feel." I'll share his words here since Mister Rogers' wisdom is always welcomed:
What do you do with the mad that you feel
When you feel so mad you could bite?
When the whole wide world seems oh, so wrong…
And nothing you do seems very right?
What do you do? Do you punch a bag?
Do you pound some clay or some dough?
Do you round up friends for a game of tag?
Or see how fast you go?
It’s great to be able to stop
When you’ve planned a thing that’s wrong,
And be able to do something else instead
And think this song:
I can stop when I want to
Can stop when I wish
I can stop, stop, stop any time.
And what a good feeling to feel like this
And know that the feeling is really mine.
Know that there’s something deep inside
That helps us become what we can.
For a girl can be someday a woman
And a boy can be someday a man.
You are such a blessing and a fantastic role model. Happy Valentine’s Day. 💕
I love Father Greg! Thank you so much for mentioning Homeboy Industries! Father Greg has so many videos on YouTube and every one of them is a joy to listen to and puts us on the right path, the path towards love! Thank you so much Jane for bringing him up. I love you so much! 💗
Thank yo so much for your message Jane. i have 3 daughters, one who live in Santa Monica. Her heart is full and she is out there on the peaceful protest lines, witnessing the wrongs. My parents, quite the opposite,swallowing the red pill to the deepest Trumpian consperacies.
i love them both but cant seem to save my mom, who is 97. My wife and I love your body of work and passion, dating back to your stance on Vietnam. You are a hero, as was your Dad and brother, Peter. Like you, at age 69, appreciate every day to pay it forward, as you do so well. Appreciate you Jane.
I am so excited you are serving on the board of Home Boy Industries. I have been studying Richard Rohr and through him found Boyles book. Boyle was at a conference in Albuquerque that i attended. such a wonderful human! and so are you. ty Jane
Such a great post. The message at the end about disliking behaviour but not the individual is so important, very difficult, but very important. And behaviour is also what tells you who someone is...not so much words. And agreed, the traumatized are not well individuals living terrible lives of cognitive dissonance and psychic pain. I appreciate Jane that you shared this but also that you practice this, you do have an amazing sense of calm about you. Thank you.
From your fans at Raindance Film Festival in London! We Love Gaslit and hope to show it June 17-26 in Leicester Square!
Jane you are absolutely phenomenal .. I don’t need to say this because everyone knows it… but I’m in my mid 70’s and so appreciate you taking the time and energy to guide all of us! You’re obviously more privileged than most of us, but you are kind, and down to earth, and you are wise1 THANK YOU for taking time and energy to share !
Hi Jane. I love the video today. All of those letters were so lovely. I just wrote on my Substack and posted on Facebook an article about empathy. When you talk about traumatized people and not hating them it really resonated with me, and was basically on par with the article I wrote. I’ve been trying to educate myself on a typical maga follower. I’m a residential interior designer based in Beverly Hills and New York, but I started writing about a year ago and have tapped into a new creative outlet I didn’t know I had inside of me. I’m trying to use it for good. I just started on Substack. I’m not doing any of those things one does to garner followers. The process of writing is so cathartic and better than therapy for me. Showing empathy to traumatize people who behave with hatred is something Democratic leadership needs to tap into. Trump had used it as all con men do to demonize ‘the other’ and tap in into the grievances of so many people suffering in the richest country in the world. Neither party has offered them answers and solutions. I don’t think it’s hyperbolic anymore to make comparisons to Germany in the early 1930s. People are angry because their lives have not turned out the way they hoped things would go, and I truly understand that. They were looking for their Messiah. In many of these small towns, Bible Belt cities, and rural areas across the country the evangelical church is the only community people have. There is no culture. They see in Trump what they see so often in these architectural monstrosities called churches with Venmo machines. So often the minister has been caught with his hand in the cookie jar or in inappropriate relationships with other members of the congregation and even children sadly. It’s a culture of forgiveness or rather overlooking the uncomfortable because he’s tapped into their grievances culturally and politically so profoundly and then it’s bolstered and sanitized on Fox News every night or Newsmax or any of the right wing podcasts. As privileged white people who support the marginalized, it’s important that we recognize them as well. Trump just held a mirror up in 2015 do a very significant group of people that have been left behind by both parties.
Thank you for all the great work you do on climate and democracy. I loved your documentary. I think we’re neighbors in BH?
Keep up the good fight Fonda! You rock. 😍
I was lucky enough to see the venerable monks on Day 100 in Chesterfield Virginia (and the peace dog!) It was inspirational.
I just subscribed to your channel. Your video made me cry. Hatred is the language of the traumatized – – that reached all the way to my core. Normally it takes music to do that.
Growing up Gay in the south in the 80s, I experienced a lot of what you describe with respect to trauma and hatred. Bullies were bullied and that’s what makes them what they are.
I grew up watching 9 to 5, and I thought you and Lily and Dolly were just fabulous. Dabney was awesome too.
I absolutely adore your father – – 12 angry men remains in my top perhaps four or five favorite movies. On golden pond was lovely and a wonderful taming of you and your pop.
Since 2017, I’ve had to think quite differently about my life because of a health crisis that continues to slow me down. I worked in high-tech – – Microsoft, Amazon, Uber. Grace and Frankie brought me a lot of joy during those dark days.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I would like to send you a book – – if you use Kindle, I’d like to buy you a copy.
Sending love from Tucson,
CNP Slagle